DoucheArt

Let me preface this by saying that I have no problem with the whole S&M thing. I dabble. I enjoy it. And, under normal circumstances, I really have no issues doling out a little punishment if the mood strikes. That may be TMI, but I just want it to be known that I didn't select this message based on the fact that this guy obviously wants or needs or would like a little humiliation. In and of itself, that isn't the problem.

The problem is that an idiot with both the words "orgasm" and "daddy" in his username whose profile is all about his kids is messaging women not to introduce himself or to say hello or to even figure out what they're into but to try and scratch his itch. He proceeds right to soliciting what he wants in his very first message without so much as attempting to figure out if the person he's messaging would actually be into the same things he is--and yes, that's a big fucking deal. Plenty of Fish isn't Fetlife. It's not catering to a niche crowd of people that want to explore that side of themselves. It's about widening your social circle, meeting people, and potentially falling in love or friendship with them.

If you're on PoF looking for casual sex, then your profile needs to explicitly say so. There's no need to bullshit people with a bunch of commentary about how good a father you are since when it comes down to it, you're not looking for someone to meet your kids. You're looking for someone to jump on your dick. As such, the more you talk about how awesome a single dad you are while messaging people about sex, the more you look like a fucking liar who is out for his own self-interests with little concern for what anyone else's wants, needs, or desires including your children's.

Maybe that sounds harsh, but as someone with a child and an ex who has been through woman after woman since we went out separate ways romantically, I can say that it's pretty fucking sickening when people use their "single father" status as a means to get into panties, and those people rarely have the best interests of their children in mind. --jenniy