Saturday, June 21, 2014
I think we can all agree that when it comes to being on the Internet, there’s absolutely no way to know what everything’s about and a well-meaning hashtag can actually make you look like an idiot if you’re completely unaware of the background of said hashtag.
Take, for instance, this new #feloncrushfriday trend that took place after a mug shot of Jeremy Meeks was
That very same thing recently happened to Adam Richman of Man vs Food fame. Richman recently lost some weight and has made headlines promoting his new healthy lifestyle and showing off his much slimmer body. That’s great. He’s totally not a douche for that, and I sincerely congratulate him.
That’s not the end of this, however.
In a recent Instagram post, Richman used the hashtag #thinspiration which may not mean much unless you have the context behind it (similarly to #feloncrushfriday). What Richman didn’t understand is that #thinspiration often circulates in eating disorder communities and is used on photos of emaciated bodies that promote thinness over food, health, and healthy living. These communities often discuss tips on how to purge and starve—activities which promote mental disorders that I have personally struggled with that are some of the hardest fucking things I’ve ever tried to overcome that ravage people’s health, minds, and bodies. It’s the exact opposite of the inspirational message he was going for. A little research behind the hashtag can be quite eye-opening. Sites like Tumblr and Pinterest have actually banned Thinspiration boards because they’re more often than not pro-anorexia. No shit. If that sounds nuts, it’s because it is and that’s why this has led to these sites policing this kind of content. Instagram itself has a content advisory in place for the hashtag.
The problem isn’t so much with Richman’s usage of #thinspiration. He’s only human, and as such, it’s to be expected that he is ignorant of some things. As I said originally, there’s no way we can know everything there is to know about a trend. His reaction to being educated about it was really fucking horrible though. Instead of embracing the fact that he fucked up and taking the opportunity to learn from his followers and be supportive and educate himself, he called the woman attempting to teach him about the context of the hashtag a cunt. yeah…a cunt. He also said he didn’t give a fuck about the context of the hashtag and instructed a follower who also attempted to explain the hashtag to grab a razor and draw a bath because no one would miss her.
I could totally have overlooked the ignorance of the hashtag. I really could have. But telling someone to kill themselves because they have an understanding of something you don’t? That’s far over the line. He said he was just trying to inspire people to live a better lifestyle, but apparently all losing weight has done for him is turn him into the kind of angry jackass that thinks he can’t be corrected and doesn’t need to take any responsibility for the shit he says. What’s so fucking healthy about that?
That’s not inspiration for a healthy lifestyle…that’s just proving you’re a douchebag whose only inspirational effect is teaching us how to not handle ourselves in a public forum. So, thanks for that, at least, asshole.
In a recent Instagram post, Richman used the hashtag #thinspiration which may not mean much unless you have the context behind it (similarly to #feloncrushfriday). What Richman didn’t understand is that #thinspiration often circulates in eating disorder communities and is used on photos of emaciated bodies that promote thinness over food, health, and healthy living. These communities often discuss tips on how to purge and starve—activities which promote mental disorders that I have personally struggled with that are some of the hardest fucking things I’ve ever tried to overcome that ravage people’s health, minds, and bodies. It’s the exact opposite of the inspirational message he was going for. A little research behind the hashtag can be quite eye-opening. Sites like Tumblr and Pinterest have actually banned Thinspiration boards because they’re more often than not pro-anorexia. No shit. If that sounds nuts, it’s because it is and that’s why this has led to these sites policing this kind of content. Instagram itself has a content advisory in place for the hashtag.
The problem isn’t so much with Richman’s usage of #thinspiration. He’s only human, and as such, it’s to be expected that he is ignorant of some things. As I said originally, there’s no way we can know everything there is to know about a trend. His reaction to being educated about it was really fucking horrible though. Instead of embracing the fact that he fucked up and taking the opportunity to learn from his followers and be supportive and educate himself, he called the woman attempting to teach him about the context of the hashtag a cunt. yeah…a cunt. He also said he didn’t give a fuck about the context of the hashtag and instructed a follower who also attempted to explain the hashtag to grab a razor and draw a bath because no one would miss her.
I could totally have overlooked the ignorance of the hashtag. I really could have. But telling someone to kill themselves because they have an understanding of something you don’t? That’s far over the line. He said he was just trying to inspire people to live a better lifestyle, but apparently all losing weight has done for him is turn him into the kind of angry jackass that thinks he can’t be corrected and doesn’t need to take any responsibility for the shit he says. What’s so fucking healthy about that?
That’s not inspiration for a healthy lifestyle…that’s just proving you’re a douchebag whose only inspirational effect is teaching us how to not handle ourselves in a public forum. So, thanks for that, at least, asshole.
Sometimes in life you do stupid things. I, personally, do really stupid things and this post is evidence of it.
To make a long story short... sometimes you just have to sit back and laugh at your mistakes. That is especially true when you find your Mistake's online dating profile and notice that he lied during your entire relationship about his height (exaggerating) but was honest about it on his dating profile. And honestly that is just the beginning as I could pick the entire thing apart but for the sake of time and energy I will just say...the whole profile was a piece of shit and full of half-truths.
I Am a single father who loves life. I Am very easy going person who enjoys sitting at home watching a movie over going out drinking. I live to fish and own my own boat. I am looking for someone who likes some of the same things as me so we can do something we both enjoy. I like plays and opera...a couple Ihave seen in person are Rent, Cinderella, and my favorite seen at the Cadillac Palace in Chicago IL. The Phantom of the Opera. If your a Fun woman who would like to hang out and maybe go to a movie hit me up. though I do work a lot and have my daughter every other weekend I will still make tone for fun"
While being a douche and sharing his online dating profile with friends, I made the most rookie move ever and clicked on the link while I was logged into Plenty of Fish in another tab. Anyone who uses the site knows...once you look at a profile, the user can see that you viewed them. It took him ten days to notice upon which I got this message. Which would be a shitty first message from anyone, but it's especially shitty because I'm sure he's thinking I'm interested in him again or I'm "stalking" him. And quite frankly, being the one doing the stalking, sending the abusive and harassing text messages, doing slow drive-bys in my work vehicle (because I have a job related need to be on the street and in the neighborhood) might be a nice change of pace after having been on the receiving end of such behaviors for months. But... I would never do that to another person after knowing what it is like to lay in bed and know the vehicle of someone who once sent you a video of himself holding a gun to his head because you wouldn't talk to him is on the street outside your window in the middle of the night.
The moral of the story is... don't make rookie mistakes when making fun of your exes. And be wary of everyone you meet because a seemingly decent, though incredibly poorly written, profile might be another woman's former nightmare.
Friday, June 20, 2014
It really takes a classy, intelligent gentleman to message a woman you've never once messaged or spoken to before to tell her you're giving her permission to suck your dick. That's exactly what the ladies are looking for in a partner, too--a man who only thinks about himself, who thinks women need permission, and who can't be so much as bothered to spell out the word "you" in a 4 word message. We're here to serve, right? Our needs, our wants, our desires...our preference for mental stimulation...fuck that. We're here to make sandwiches and guzzle jizz and get shit in return. --jenniy
On my Plenty of Fish profile, I ask that people please be able to have a conversation. I can't tell you how many times conversations have just drifted to the wayside because people seem unable to communicate in a way that encourages further communication. If I try to express genuine interest and what I get is responses that seem like you aren't interested in talking to me, or if you repeatedly send messages that contain NOTHING I can reply to... I eventually grow exhausted and quit trying. It's about give and take kids, if you can't have the most basic of conversations there isn't going to be much there when you can't take viagra anymore because it interferes with your heart medication.
Apparently, this guy whose username reminded me of "Jawanna Mann" because it was so similar, decided to put the blame on me from the get-go in his first message. I don't know if he was trying to be funny or what but I'm not going to take the blame for this oh-so-charming wordsmith.
Thursday, June 19, 2014
In all my years of loving sex and meeting people online, I have never once looked at someone's photos and even so much as thought (much less typed that thought out in a message) "man i bet he (or she) can eat a pussy." What the fuck? What the fuck makes someone look at a photo of a complete stranger, make this observation, and then decide to pronounce it to that person before even saying hello? What kind of world do we live in where "man, i bet u give great blowjobs" passes for a greeting these days? One of the funny things about life is that some of the best looking people...some of the ones you are sure will be good in bed are really fucking terrible at it. That's like looking at someone and saying "oh baby I bet you've read Moby Dick." You've kind of got a 50/50 shot at getting that right, and it really has nothing to do with looks.
Actually, I think I'm going to start opening with that line. --jenniy
He sent me these three messages, all within 45 minutes. Obviously, I didn't respond to any of them because... um... what the hell dude? Nothing is creepier than a man who "shouts" "I LOVE YOU!!!" in his first message. And I would be lying if I said I didn't look for tell-tale evidence (candy wrappers, cigarette butts, marks in the lawn from a fold-up chair or a bottle that suspiciously looked like urine) that someone was watching me all night from the neighboring lawns.
He deleted his account shortly after messaging me. Gee... I wonder why he thought he was blocked from everyone?
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
It's not like I'm asking to be swept off my feet in one message. Truly. It takes time to get swept or whatever unless you're some of my facebook friends who fall in love every 2 weeks with a different person in a cycle of love and leave that seems impossible to be reality instead of a soap opera. But jesus fucking christ... "make" me want to fuck you? Thanks but no thanks. You're going to make me make you look like an ass for sending someone that kind of creepiness on my blog. That's all you're going to make me do.
Also, just an FYI and stuff..."gone" means not present. What I think you're looking for although I can't really be sure is "gonna" and then you'd need to at least change it to Ur if you insist on that asinine abbreviation bullshit.
--jenniy
Sunday, June 15, 2014
I'm not sure why anyone would ever, ever think that was a compliment to himself, but apparently, this guy did. The last thing you want to compare yourself to is a natural disaster that lasts 30 seconds at most. Way to go, moron. You just ensured no one will ever want to fuck you.
Also, this one came to us from The Jaded Single. Check out her blog which combines dating and recipes. It's pretty awesome.
No, this is not the douchiest first message I've ever gotten and honestly the conversation that followed really and truly wasn't bad and he seems interesting enough. I'm honestly tempted to meet up with this guy but damn dude...do you think you could approach me like a grown woman instead of a snack food? I just can't get over that part. Don't get me wrong, there is something to be said for a man who looks at you like he wants to eat you, but on the internet it is hard to tell if it is a Hannibal Lector thing or a sex thing.
We're linking up for Sunday Confessions, feel free to check out the other confessions about Temptation this week!
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