Saturday, August 16, 2014
So many douches, so little time.
There’s another story this week, though, that garnered a good bit of attention—the abuse and assault of Christy Mack by her ex-boyfriend Jonathan Koppenhaver a.k.a War Machine, a 32 year old, welterweight MMA fighter.
As the story goes, last Friday, Koppenhaver showed up unannounced at Mack’s home last weekend. He found her in the company of a male friend. He beat this man and kicked him out of the house, but this wasn’t enough to satisfy his rage. He, then, turned his fists on his ex-girlfriend…and not for the first time. When she opened up about the attack later, she revealed that she had 18 broken bones in her face, a ruptured liver, broken ribs, broken and missing teeth, stab wounds and lacerations from a knife used in the attack, and countless horrible bruises as revealed by the pictures she bravely shared. This was in addition to “War Machine” forcing her to strip naked and shower in front of him, attempting to rape her, and cutting off most of her hair.
Mack managed to run away from the attack and sought help at a neighbor’s. If she hadn’t, chances are she would be dead right now. According to her story, she ran from the house after the first knife broke while “War Machine” was searching, she assumed, for another one in her kitchen.
The obvious douche here is this supposed “fighter” who is a repeated domestic abuser. This is not the first time he has beaten Mack though the severity of this was much worse than his typical rage-fueled violent attacks. This is a man whose body is toned and honed specifically for fighting and who is trained for the sole purpose of beating the shit out of people. To turn around and use those “skills” on someone who he says he was going to ask to marry him is perhaps one of the douchiest things a person can do…
Christy Mack is a fucking human being. The End. I’m tired of seeing “porn star Christy Mack” in headlines as if the only thing that matters about this woman is what she did for a living. She was abused as a woman outside of her career by someone who supposedly loves/loved her. Her career choice is in no way an open invitation for men to beat her nearly to death. Her job is not equivalent with abuse. She is in no way less of a human being or less of a woman for having chose the type of work that she has.
If she were a “regular” actress, a Scarlet Johansen or Emma Watson, would she still be getting the blame that she is right now? She’d be getting some because that’s the nature of the world we live in, unfortunately. Victims of domestic abuse always shoulder the blame despite having zero culpability in these attacks, but it wouldn’t be to this degree. Of that, I have no doubt.
If, instead of beating a former lover, “War Machine” got into a fight and almost beat a male porn star to death in a bar, would we care about the fact that he was a porn star? Not a fucking chance.
If “War Machine” had beaten and nearly killed his dog, would anyone blame the dog? Certainly not. So, why do dogs get more respect than a woman who decided on her own volition to take a job in the adult film industry? Why is it that porn is perfectly fine when you’re jacking your dicks to it but all of a sudden it’s something vile and loathsome when it comes to humanizing the people who make your fap material?
It’s a fucked up world when the only way a huge segment of our population can get off is to see the women they get off to as less than human and undeserving of respect. It translates directly into the social inequality problems we see between men and women in modern society and contributes to the kind of victim-blaming, slut shaming, entitled mentality that seems so prevalent right now.
So, to anyone reading this who thinks that this woman deserved what happened to her because of her career choice, to anyone who thinks that she deserves to be treated like anything less than human, to those who think that she somehow asked for this by being in adult films, let me make things clear. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. EVER. Get it straight. No one deserves to be hurt, maimed, injured, raped, or killed because their career is something you think they should be ashamed of.
Mack managed to run away from the attack and sought help at a neighbor’s. If she hadn’t, chances are she would be dead right now. According to her story, she ran from the house after the first knife broke while “War Machine” was searching, she assumed, for another one in her kitchen.
The obvious douche here is this supposed “fighter” who is a repeated domestic abuser. This is not the first time he has beaten Mack though the severity of this was much worse than his typical rage-fueled violent attacks. This is a man whose body is toned and honed specifically for fighting and who is trained for the sole purpose of beating the shit out of people. To turn around and use those “skills” on someone who he says he was going to ask to marry him is perhaps one of the douchiest things a person can do…
There’s an even bigger douche in this story, though. That may come as quite a shock because you have to
wonder who could possibly be a bigger douche than a man who could do this to a woman’s face and be so nonchalant about it still tweeting about being hungry and “the truth coming out” while in hiding.
There IS a truth that needs airing. That’s why the Douche of the Week this week is you, Interneters. Not all of you certainly, but many of you. There has been quite a buildup of interest in this case over the last week especially after details of Christy Mack’s injuries were released and Dog the Bounty Hunter decided to get involved in the matter. Much of that interest has taken the form of laying blame and shaming Christy Mack for being a porn star/former porn star.
There have been tweets declaring she left herself open for abuse by being an adult film star. Attacks on her character, jokes about finally landing a role that she couldn’t handle, rape jokes, gang bang jokes, and tweets about it being “certain” types of women who fall for abusive men have all been circulating online. It’s sickening.
There IS a truth that needs airing. That’s why the Douche of the Week this week is you, Interneters. Not all of you certainly, but many of you. There has been quite a buildup of interest in this case over the last week especially after details of Christy Mack’s injuries were released and Dog the Bounty Hunter decided to get involved in the matter. Much of that interest has taken the form of laying blame and shaming Christy Mack for being a porn star/former porn star.
There have been tweets declaring she left herself open for abuse by being an adult film star. Attacks on her character, jokes about finally landing a role that she couldn’t handle, rape jokes, gang bang jokes, and tweets about it being “certain” types of women who fall for abusive men have all been circulating online. It’s sickening.
Christy Mack is a fucking human being. The End. I’m tired of seeing “porn star Christy Mack” in headlines as if the only thing that matters about this woman is what she did for a living. She was abused as a woman outside of her career by someone who supposedly loves/loved her. Her career choice is in no way an open invitation for men to beat her nearly to death. Her job is not equivalent with abuse. She is in no way less of a human being or less of a woman for having chose the type of work that she has.
If she were a “regular” actress, a Scarlet Johansen or Emma Watson, would she still be getting the blame that she is right now? She’d be getting some because that’s the nature of the world we live in, unfortunately. Victims of domestic abuse always shoulder the blame despite having zero culpability in these attacks, but it wouldn’t be to this degree. Of that, I have no doubt.
If, instead of beating a former lover, “War Machine” got into a fight and almost beat a male porn star to death in a bar, would we care about the fact that he was a porn star? Not a fucking chance.
If “War Machine” had beaten and nearly killed his dog, would anyone blame the dog? Certainly not. So, why do dogs get more respect than a woman who decided on her own volition to take a job in the adult film industry? Why is it that porn is perfectly fine when you’re jacking your dicks to it but all of a sudden it’s something vile and loathsome when it comes to humanizing the people who make your fap material?
It’s a fucked up world when the only way a huge segment of our population can get off is to see the women they get off to as less than human and undeserving of respect. It translates directly into the social inequality problems we see between men and women in modern society and contributes to the kind of victim-blaming, slut shaming, entitled mentality that seems so prevalent right now.
So, to anyone reading this who thinks that this woman deserved what happened to her because of her career choice, to anyone who thinks that she deserves to be treated like anything less than human, to those who think that she somehow asked for this by being in adult films, let me make things clear. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. EVER. Get it straight. No one deserves to be hurt, maimed, injured, raped, or killed because their career is something you think they should be ashamed of.
Friday, August 15, 2014
Yep, that's all it said.
"Sext?"
In my profile I say, verbatim, "it seems the vast majority of the male population wishes to domesticate me or screw me. One extreme or the other with nothing in the gray area. It's frustrating." So an offer to sext isn't exactly screwing but without anything else to go on, it surely doesn't fall into the gray area I mention. And, really, that's like walking up to a woman in a bar and saying, "Can you show me your tits and then tell me how you would give me head?"
Would that work in real life? Does it actually work on the Internet?
It doesn't work for me, and honestly, I found it a bit disturbing. If someone walked up to me in person and asked if I'd describe how I'd fuck them without so much as introducing themselves, it would be a total violation. Why can't people see that saying the same shit on the Internet is STILL a violation. I'M STILL A FUCKING PERSON NO MATTER THE FACT THAT I'M SITTING IN FRONT OF MY COMPUTER WHILE YOU SIT AT YOURS. Being online doesn't suddenly change the fact that you should observe the same courtesies and respect that you would pay to a person in real life. I have no doubt that this dude has little respect for women as it is, but I highly doubt he would walk up to a woman in a grocery store and say "fuck?" and expect her to smile a knowing smile, grab his hand, and head over to the men's bathroom with him... So, don't pull that shit online. Ugh. --jenniy
Thursday, August 14, 2014
uh...
no, thanks.
But, seriously, I don't think this is implying anything about late night drives on dirt roads. So, can he really think that suggesting that some guy from the sticks can fuck better or differently than anyone else? Because I can tell you right now with 100% confidence, that ain't true.
I've had "country" for most of my life being that I live in a town of 297 people and the surrounding area is still under 20,000. It's all farmland, dirt roads, and rural quietness. And, it all feels the same, dude. The only thing you can guarantee is that it's going to be a lot better if I actually respect the person I'm sleeping with and with an opening line like that, well, chances are slim on that one...
--jenniy
Wednesday, August 13, 2014
I didn't even answer the first by the time the second message came.
"Dam girl what's up with you"
I don't even know how to translate that. Is he literally asking me what's up? Is he trying to ask me why I didn't respond to his first message? I'm confused either way.
But this is the kind of message you get when you take down your profile picture. You know... no one called me "girl" when I was one, except the little Chinese lady who owned the restaurant we used to go to as a family when I was a kid. But she called all of us "girl" or "boy" respectively, and while I haven't seen her in years I'm relatively certain she would STILL call me that today in spite of the fact that I'm 28 years old. She still calls my brother "boy" and he's like 6'2 and she only comes up to the middle of his chest.
My point? The only person who gets to call me "girl" is a Chinese woman in her 60's who used to send me home with styrofoam containers of Chinese food even though we showed up for the buffet.
And learn how to spell "Damn". It's a fucking four letter word, dumb ass. Ugh... nothing locks up my ability to communicate with someone who is an idiot AND can't spell.
Sunday, August 10, 2014
Here at DoucheArt, we often get suggestions as to where we might find men because it seems that this online dating thing isn't working out or proving to be successful for either one of us. In fact, it has been not only suggested but downright recommended (by a man no less) that we experience the freedom of anonymous sex via Craigslist ads. Perhaps he doesn't really read our blog or he would know that neither one of us is experiencing a shortage of men inviting us to sit on their face, let them come over, or take one in the face. The fact of the matter is, if we wanted sex with a stranger we could find it doing exactly what we are doing now. We choose not to.
Quite frankly, I'm amazed that someone could meet someone on Craigslist for anything whether it be a long term relationship or a quickie. The sheer number of outright weird responses I got trying to sell something not long ago was enough to scare me away from selling anything on Craigslist, much less trying to give something like blow jobs or sex away.
We don't judge here at DoucheArt, but I think I can speak for both of us when I say that Jenniy and I just aren't interested in finding someone on Craigslist. If you are interested in meeting people using the popular site, however, please be safe because this week's Douche of the Week only proves that Safe Sex really is a necessity, not an option.
Meet 36 year old, married, Oklahoma City resident Martin Kraham. Kraham has been posting ads on Craigslist in the Personals Section looking for men, women, couples, transsexuals, and crossdressers in both Oklahoma and Colorado since 2008. According to reports, investigators have gathered information showing that Kraham has posted 695 personals ads seeking sex on the site in the last six and a half years. Martin Kraham is also HIV+. and has been aware of it since 2007. His former partners, however, are only becoming aware of it now.
While reports have yet to fully detail the exact nature of the relationships Kraham was having with the women who have reported him to authorities (not that it matters, but I would be interested to know if this was risky sexual behavior on both sides, or if the women Kraham was meeting believed they were meeting someone who was interested in a relationship), they all sound the same for the most part: They met him on Craigslist. They initially used condoms until he asked to go without. Kraham told them he was clean and got tested regularly. They took his word for it. They later found out that he was, in fact, HIV positive.
While the women who have come forward have not tested positive for the virus, it is impossible to know how many people have been exposed by Kraham. One victim suggested that she knew of 6 people who had sexual contact with Kraham, but suspected it could perhaps be hundreds, maybe even hundreds per year. Kraham was arrested this week and faces two counts each of Knowingly Engaging in Conduct Likely to Transfer HIV and Using Access to Computers to Violate Oklahoma State Statute.
It pains me to know that there are people like this in the world. People who do things like this to other people, and for what? But most importantly, why?
Not that it would make a damn bit of difference to me, but I'd like to know what Mr. Kraham's reasons are for doing such a thing. Perhaps he struggled to deal with his own diagnosis, but that is no excuse for exposing hundreds of other people. Clearly, he acknowledged the seriousness of his HIV+ status as his wife claims to have known about it all along.
Speaking of Kraham's wife...she is standing by him because she claims he was honest with her about his HIV+ status from the very beginning of their relationship. They have been married for more than a year, and dated for five years before getting married. In other words, while Kraham was honest with the woman who became his wife about his HIV+ status, he's been soliciting anonymous sex online for their entire relationship. I can't help but wonder what kind of fucked up person stays with someone and says they'll be fighting criminal charges and civil suits side by side with their husband who did what Martin Kraham did.
While Martin Kraham is a scumbag, piece of shit liar, he is not the only responsible party. Every person he hooked up with made the decision to have unprotected sex with someone they met on the internet based solely on their words. Anyone can claim to be disease free, but there isn't really any way of knowing without having a monogamous relationship for over 90 days and getting tested together before having unprotected sex. That's the reality. I'm not blaming the victims, however... there were two responsible parties involved (or more, for that matter) that made the irresponsible decision to go bareback.
Kraham might be the devil. It is impossible to say how many lives he has negatively impacted, possibly ruined either from actually transmitting the virus to them or just giving them the scare of their life. The fact of the matter is that there is still not cure for HIV or AIDS. While there are 31 different kinds of antiretroviral treatments, in 2012 the cost for those treatments was between $2,000-5,000 PER MONTH.
It is impossible to say how many people Kraham engaged in risky sexual behavior with who later went on to engage in more risky sexual behavior with others. While Kraham's behavior is disgusting, appalling and downright terrifying, what is even more frightening to me is just how many people willingly agreed to have risky sex with a stranger. Again, I'm not trying to blame the victims, but I can't help but think that we should have reached a point in our world where we know about things like STDs, STIs, crotch critters, and HIV. The information is out there and so is the preventative.
Condoms save lives. Please Use Them. My confession this week? It scares me how many people aren't and how many people are choosing not to be sexually responsible. - Ash
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Quite frankly, I'm amazed that someone could meet someone on Craigslist for anything whether it be a long term relationship or a quickie. The sheer number of outright weird responses I got trying to sell something not long ago was enough to scare me away from selling anything on Craigslist, much less trying to give something like blow jobs or sex away.
We don't judge here at DoucheArt, but I think I can speak for both of us when I say that Jenniy and I just aren't interested in finding someone on Craigslist. If you are interested in meeting people using the popular site, however, please be safe because this week's Douche of the Week only proves that Safe Sex really is a necessity, not an option.
Meet 36 year old, married, Oklahoma City resident Martin Kraham. Kraham has been posting ads on Craigslist in the Personals Section looking for men, women, couples, transsexuals, and crossdressers in both Oklahoma and Colorado since 2008. According to reports, investigators have gathered information showing that Kraham has posted 695 personals ads seeking sex on the site in the last six and a half years. Martin Kraham is also HIV+. and has been aware of it since 2007. His former partners, however, are only becoming aware of it now.While reports have yet to fully detail the exact nature of the relationships Kraham was having with the women who have reported him to authorities (not that it matters, but I would be interested to know if this was risky sexual behavior on both sides, or if the women Kraham was meeting believed they were meeting someone who was interested in a relationship), they all sound the same for the most part: They met him on Craigslist. They initially used condoms until he asked to go without. Kraham told them he was clean and got tested regularly. They took his word for it. They later found out that he was, in fact, HIV positive.
While the women who have come forward have not tested positive for the virus, it is impossible to know how many people have been exposed by Kraham. One victim suggested that she knew of 6 people who had sexual contact with Kraham, but suspected it could perhaps be hundreds, maybe even hundreds per year. Kraham was arrested this week and faces two counts each of Knowingly Engaging in Conduct Likely to Transfer HIV and Using Access to Computers to Violate Oklahoma State Statute.
It pains me to know that there are people like this in the world. People who do things like this to other people, and for what? But most importantly, why?
Not that it would make a damn bit of difference to me, but I'd like to know what Mr. Kraham's reasons are for doing such a thing. Perhaps he struggled to deal with his own diagnosis, but that is no excuse for exposing hundreds of other people. Clearly, he acknowledged the seriousness of his HIV+ status as his wife claims to have known about it all along.
Speaking of Kraham's wife...she is standing by him because she claims he was honest with her about his HIV+ status from the very beginning of their relationship. They have been married for more than a year, and dated for five years before getting married. In other words, while Kraham was honest with the woman who became his wife about his HIV+ status, he's been soliciting anonymous sex online for their entire relationship. I can't help but wonder what kind of fucked up person stays with someone and says they'll be fighting criminal charges and civil suits side by side with their husband who did what Martin Kraham did.
While Martin Kraham is a scumbag, piece of shit liar, he is not the only responsible party. Every person he hooked up with made the decision to have unprotected sex with someone they met on the internet based solely on their words. Anyone can claim to be disease free, but there isn't really any way of knowing without having a monogamous relationship for over 90 days and getting tested together before having unprotected sex. That's the reality. I'm not blaming the victims, however... there were two responsible parties involved (or more, for that matter) that made the irresponsible decision to go bareback.
Kraham might be the devil. It is impossible to say how many lives he has negatively impacted, possibly ruined either from actually transmitting the virus to them or just giving them the scare of their life. The fact of the matter is that there is still not cure for HIV or AIDS. While there are 31 different kinds of antiretroviral treatments, in 2012 the cost for those treatments was between $2,000-5,000 PER MONTH.
It is impossible to say how many people Kraham engaged in risky sexual behavior with who later went on to engage in more risky sexual behavior with others. While Kraham's behavior is disgusting, appalling and downright terrifying, what is even more frightening to me is just how many people willingly agreed to have risky sex with a stranger. Again, I'm not trying to blame the victims, but I can't help but think that we should have reached a point in our world where we know about things like STDs, STIs, crotch critters, and HIV. The information is out there and so is the preventative.
We're hooking this post up for Sunday Confessions @ More Than Cheese and Beer. Stop by and check out the other great posts today.
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