DoucheArt

To this guy's credit, when I responded with a simple "no," he deleted his profile. Unfortunately, given that this was his first message to me, that his username included the word "discreet," and that he chose to delete his profile pretty soon after my response, he is likely married and makes up a new profile every time he gets on plenty of fish to keep from getting caught by his significant other. He, I'm guessing, sends out mass messages on the night in question--perhaps his wife is at her mother's for the night or out with friends or away on business. So, he uses the site to try and get laid when he can and does the "smart" thing by deleting the "evidence" of his attempted betrayals. Is this ever successful? I hate to think it is, but it's highly likely that every once in awhile, he messages the right person at the right time and gets lucky. Hopefully, he's not the kind of Dennis Rader type that also kills the women he meets once he's done with them. All in all, it's a pretty disgusting first message, and there's nothing I can really say that makes this guy look any worse than he already does. 

I just want to go on record suggesting that maybe if you're not happy in your marriage you should communicate that to your partner or get out of said marriage instead of risking the health of your significant other, risking hurting them in a way that is unforgivable, and dragging other people into your miserable decent. Don't drag your significant other down and don't convince another person that they deserve to be someone's secret....

-j